I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.
My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.
No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”
And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.
Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others.
Big Poppa E., “How To Make Love” (via jesusfuckmechrist)
I am reblogging this specifically for the hilarity that is step 8.
YES omg just yes
Everyone read. EVERYONE. For real.
Number 8 though.
My goal in life is to be like them.
Really it’s the high-five that seals it. That’s rhythm and being in sync with each other.
I never understood why it was somehow superior to be a joiner. Being an introvert is judged in some extreme way, as if you’re lacking some ability to cope because you don’t drink beer and smoke pot in someone’s basement. Introversion is distrusted - it makes people nervous. Maybe it seems like we’ve got secrets. They think the secret is you’re depressed or something, that’s why you don’t seek their company, when the secret is really that you’re happy and relieved and almost flying at the near-miss escape of not having to be in their company. You’re looked at like you’re seriously lacking, when the only thing you feel lacking in is the ability to be an introvert in peace.”
The Six Rules of Maybe, Deb Caletti
What a creative mom!
2890. Wengenn in Wonderland. Artist and mother of three, Queenie Liao imagines what her son might be dreaming of during his naptimes. These are so cute and artfully crafted!